Many people accept the status quo because they don’t think they can change their life. They get accustomed to living in survival mode instead of thriving, often without realizing it. For those trapped in toxic relationships, this can be especially true.
Women are particularly susceptible to remaining in bad marriages because they can’t envision a future beyond that. They often fear divorce and not having enough money, losing the children, and not having a place to live. These fears create mental roadblocks that keep women in unhealthy situations rather than planning a healthy divorce.
However, it is possible to thrive and not just survive. Here’s how:
Step 1: Decide what you want.
Start with goal setting – what do you want? This one simple question can actually be difficult to answer honestly. So start small – what is one thing you want to accomplish this year? Or even smaller – what do you want to accomplish this week, or just by the end of the day? Don’t overwhelm yourself with a million things. Focus on just a few things that you truly want to accomplish in the allotted time frame.
With our cases, this is usually our starting point with clients. We explore not only what they want out of their divorce but also out of life. We listen to their hopes and fears, and we guide them to resources both within and beyond the legal aspect of their case so that they can achieve their goals.
Step 2: Commit to a plan.
Once you’ve figured out what you want, then commit to the experience, the goal, and yourself. Create a step by step plan to accomplish what you desire. This may require that you sit down and think it through. Find a place without distractions. Write it down. Use simple terms. And if you don’t already use one, get a calendar. A calendar can be a great tool in helping you achieve your goals.
Every action you take after you’ve created your action plan should take you in the direction of what you want to accomplish. If it does not, then it is not part of the plan, and you don’t do it. This can be difficult sometimes, because life is full of distractions. That’s when you pull out your goal from Step 1 and use it to focus and redirect you back.
At our firm, we bring clients in early and work with them to develop a customized plan of action. During our strategic planning sessions, clients get checklists and information, and each member of the team is assigned tasks. When the client leaves, they know what to expect and who to contact.
Step 3: Savor success.
It’s not always an easy road, but success can be achieved. Take time to appreciate, celebrate, and savor how it feels. Use that positive energy to propel you forward. Or, if things didn’t work out the way you’d hoped, that’s okay, too. Opportunity can often come from unexpected outcomes. Learn from the experience and do things differently next time. Maintaining a positive attitude in light of failure can often propel you even farther.
We have a high client satisfaction rate, partly because of Step 3. We take time at the end of a case to follow up with clients and check in periodically. We understand that even under the best circumstances, transitions are not always easy. It’s important to us that our clients thrive, especially after divorce.
If you are ready to propel yourself into a brighter future where you can thrive instead of just survive, then contact us by clicking here or calling 214-269-4256.