Just as a new year can be a fresh start, so too can a divorce. Finding freedom from a bad marriage can actually be the beginning of a transition to the life you want to lead, rather than the end.
In the past, January was often referred to as the divorce month. Historically, the divorce rate increased each year just after the new year, as one or both members of a couple chose that time to make an effort at a new start.
Add in a pandemic last year, and a lot of time for self-reflection, and both divorces and inquiries about them were up in 2020 overall. The tremendous upheaval and changes brought about by the COVID-19 pandemic led many to reevaluate their lives and realize it was time to let go of a marriage that wasn’t working. As a result, divorce filings were up in summer 2020 over past summers. And a lot more women began exploring options and looking into divorce.
If you’ve been considering the options, but you are scared about the process or about life after divorce, then divorce planning is a great way to help you start your journey toward more freedom and a fresh start for 2021.
What Is Divorce Planning?
Divorce planning is exactly what it sounds like: a plan for your divorce. It’s a process that looks at your goals and needs, then builds a divorce strategy around those. By making this your first step, you put yourself in control of what is often a stressful situation, as opposed to reacting or moving forward haphazardly without a set blueprint.
In this process, you’ll evaluate the types of divorce to determine which best suits your situation, begin gathering financial data, identify all your assets, draft a monthly budget for your post-divorce lifestyle, and make a plan for your children, among other steps.
How Do You Want to Live Your Life?
In addition to planning the divorce process, you’ll want to also think about what a fresh start means for you on a personal level. What will you do with your newfound freedom? Rather than looking at the period right after divorce as a sad and lonely time, consider it as a time for self-discovery when you can focus on you. The time and energy you have been spending on a difficult relationship can be redirected to yourself, and to the beginning of a new family unit with your kids. It is also a time to rekindle friendships you neglected while attending to your difficult marriage.
During your pandemic reflection period, you may have rethought your career or decided it was time to return to work. You also may have thought about hobbies or activities you’ve always wanted to try. Excluding financial constraints, a post-divorce self-discovery period allows you to explore all of these. A fresh start is about setting up and living life the way you want to live it.
The time right after divorce is also a time for self-care. Many women find that the time they spent trying to make a difficult marriage work can now be refocused into taking care of themselves, physically and emotionally. This can include professional therapy, an exercise routine, virtual or in-person classes, and healthier eating habits.
Ending a marriage is like a death, and there will likely be a grieving process. But viewing the divorce as a fresh start and focusing on the positive aspects will help you make it through. Recognize your qualities and gifts, and do something for yourself each day.
Let 2021 be the year to start taking action on the clarity you gained in 2020.
Our Divorce Attorneys Can Help You Start Fresh in 2021
Divorce is challenging, but with Alexandra Geczi LLC you are not alone. Our attorneys are here to help you discreetly navigate the process and protect your interests so that you can move forward into a bright, bold future. Contact us today at 214-974-4449.