When your marriage gets to that point where you know the end is in sight, you’ll likely be facing a variety of emotions. For many women, one of the most difficult feelings is that of uncertainty. Looking toward a future where all your plans need to change can seem overwhelming. While it may not be easy, there are ways that you can take control and prepare now for your life after divorce.
The following actions taken today can help position yourself to emerge from your divorce in a place of empowerment and optimism for the future. They can also help you to overcome feelings of stress, anxiety, and uncertainty about your divorce today.
Reunite with Friends
When people get married their lives change. This fact is compounded when children come along. While it may be sad, the reality for most people is that some friends will drift away over time, or at least less time will be spent with them. After your divorce, you will not only have more time on your hands, but you’ll need strong companionship more than ever. Start investing time and effort into reuniting with friends who have drifted away, and getting closer to your existing circle of friends. They will be an invaluable source of comfort (and a lot of fun) today and long after your divorce has been finalized.
Seek Professional Help
For some people, the idea of going to counseling or therapy may feel shameful or uncomfortable. The fact is, however, that the mental health professionals we work with are exceptionally good at what they do. Seeing a therapist can help you to remain strong through this difficult time, and emerge ready to face your post-divorce life with confidence.
Make Informed Financial Decisions
One of the biggest challenges during and after a divorce is going to be your finances. Whether you were working outside the home or not, your entire financial world is going to change after the divorce. The best way to avoid long term money problems is to educate yourself and make the right choices now. Don’t splurge on shoes you can’t afford. Don’t rack up credit card debt. Proceed with caution and build yourself a strong financial foundation that you can benefit from for years to come. If needed, we would be more than happy to connect you with trusted financial advisors to guide you through this process.
Put Yourself First Again
When married, everyone gives up some of their hobbies and other things they enjoy. This is natural, and when done intentionally, can even be a healthy part of a relationship. Now that you’re a little older, and a whole lot wiser, however, you will have the time and freedom to get out there and try things you might have thought impractical in the past. Make a list of sports you want to play, events you want to experience, and places you want to visit. Take some time for yourself and really learn who you want to be in this new and exciting phase of your life.
Divorce is challenging, there’s no doubt about it. But it can also represent the opportunity for a fresh start and a brand new beginning. If you’re thinking about divorce and you’d like to know more about how we can help, please contact us today to learn more!