Is an amicable divorce possible? Most couples don’t enter into a marriage thinking that it will end in divorce, but it happens to more couples than you might think. If you find yourself in the unfortunate position of having to get a divorce, you’ll want to do everything you can to make the process as smooth and painless as possible. In this blog post, we’ll discuss the keys to an amicable divorce and how to keep it out of court. We’ll also provide some tips on how to move forward after your divorce is finalized.
If you’re facing divorce, it’s important to understand that there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Every couple is different, and therefore every divorce will be unique. That said, there are some general principles that can help make the process smoother for everyone involved.
The first key to an amicable divorce is communication. If you and your spouse can sit down and openly discuss your concerns, fears, and desires, you’ll be much more likely to come to a resolution that works for both of you. It’s also important to be respectful of each other’s point of view; even if you don’t see eye-to-eye on everything, try to remember that you’re both going through a tough time and be willing to compromise.
Here are some tips for productive communication:
- Make the conscious decision to divorce amicably. This means that you and your spouse are on the same page about ending your marriage, and that you are both committed to resolving any disagreements in a constructive manner. While it may be a difficult conversation to have, couples who have mutually decided to divorce fair better than couples where one person springs a divorce lawsuit on the unsuspecting spouse.
- Communicate openly and honestly with each other. This means being respectful, keeping lines of communication open, and being willing to compromise. While trust may have been breached, couples who can set aside their emotions and be honest with each other can move through the process more quickly.
- Seek professional help if needed. If you find yourself struggling to communicate or resolve disagreements, consider seeking professional help from a therapist, coach or mediator.
- Work together to create a parenting plan. If you have children, it is important that you work together to create a parenting plan that is in your children’s best interests. While it may be challenging, this means avoiding conflict in their presence and making decisions that put their needs first. This will help make the transition easier for them as well.
- Be flexible. Things will undoubtedly come up during the divorce process that you did not expect. Try to be flexible and open to new solutions.
- Most importantly, find the right attorney. If you want to avoid excessive court fees and time consuming litigation, look for an attorney that focuses on settlement rather than blowing things up.
The key thing to keep in mind during the divorce process is that no matter how heated things become during the divorce process, you and your spouse may still need to have some kind of interaction after the divorce is finalized. This is especially true if you and your spouse have kids and will need to have a co-parenting relationship to share custody, coordinate school and activity pickups and drop offs, and generally maintain an amicable relationship for the benefit of your children. In sum, if you’re able to work together and reach an amicable agreement, the divorce process will be much simpler and less stressful for everyone involved.
Another key thing to keep in mind during the divorce process is that life goes on. You will have a life after divorce and it’s up to you to make it your best life. If you get too caught up in the here and now and all the potential stress and rancor of a divorce, it may just make the divorce process draw out longer than necessary taking time away from that precious next chapter of your life. It’s better for everyone to make the process as amicable as possible and move on.
With that in mind, one of the most common questions we get from our clients is “now what…now that this divorce is over, what do I do to rebuild my life?” Below are 5 tips for making a fresh start.
- Set goals. What do you want to achieve during and after your divorce? Write down your goals so you can stay focused and motivated.
- Seek support. Divorce can be emotionally tough, so it’s important to have a strong support system in place. Talk to friends and family or join a support group for people going through divorce.
- Take care of yourself. This is a difficult time, so make sure to take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Eat healthy, exercise, and get plenty of rest. It’s also important to give yourself time to grieve and heal before you start dating or jumping into another serious relationship.
- Focus on the future. It’s important to remember that this is only a temporary setback. Focus on your goals and what you want to achieve in the future. Divorce doesn’t have to define you or hold you back.
- Last but not least, lean on your divorce attorney. Your attorney will have a wealth of knowledge regarding support resources for life after divorce. We certainly do. If you have any questions or concerns about your life after divorce, don’t hesitate to reach out for guidance. We have almost two decades of experience with divorce, and our focus is helping women through divorce. We have a wealth of resources for women.
Most people never want to go through a divorce, but if you find yourself in that situation, then following these tips can help make the process as smooth and painless as possible.
It’s also very important to find the right attorney that can help you keep your divorce without going to court and as amicable as possible. Alexandra Geczi, PLLC, a law firm focusing on divorce for women in Dallas, has a proven track record of settling divorces out of court while obtaining excellent results for their clients. Divorce can be an amicable process and doesn’t have to end in court.
For more information on how we might be able to help you avoid court and have an amicable divorce process, fill out the contact form below and a member of our team will reach out to set up a meeting to discuss your case.